Articles of Empowerment
April 2022
Greetings in the Name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and peace be unto you. Let us continue the discussion on The Five Love Languages of Children1 with a focus on strengthening the family.
In previous issues of this newsletter, we defined and discussed each love language and their application. As a refresher, physical touch, love is felt deeply from appropriate touch; words of affirmation, words used to affirm other people; quality time, giving someone your undivided attention; receiving gifts, love is felt most with a gift; and acts of service, actions speak louder than words2. With knowing this, how can we discover another’s love language and how can we keep others love tank filled?
It has been said by some that no one cares how much you know, until they know how you care. When someone knows that you care about them, they will be ready to reciprocate to you and others. Really, this concept does not recognize age. As we aim at exhibiting the five love languages effectively, we show people around us how to love others and their need to learn to speak others’ love language.
Since we are believers in Christ, imitating God’s love, speaking love through our actions is important and crucial to the growth of the kingdom through the church. Jesus tells 11 of His disciples, a new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another3. Depending on your version of the Bible, from the OT to the NT, God has emphasized and expects us to love. In the King James Version, love is mentioned 310 times, 131 times in the Old Testament and 179 times in the New Testament. In the New American Standard Version, love is mentioned 348 times — 133 times in the Old Testament and 215 times in the New Testament. In the New International Version, it is mentioned 551 times — 319 times in the Old Testament and 232 times in the New Testament. There are 538 instances of the word "love" in the New Revised Standard Version, 317 in the Old Testament and 221 in the New Testament.
When we love, we prove that we are part of God’s family. Per the Apostle John, The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love. Love is not comfortable, it’s sacrificial. Love is as love does. Love cannot be in a person if they see a person in need and they have the means to assist, but yet refuses to help. Love does not manifest itself in polite words; it manifests in deed and in truth. Overall, when we love sacrificially, we can rest before God when we know that we have loved as He has commanded us to love.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. 2005.
2 The 5 Languages of Love. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
3 John 13:34, 35 – NASB
4 1 John 4:8 – NASB
In previous issues of this newsletter, we defined and discussed each love language and their application. As a refresher, physical touch, love is felt deeply from appropriate touch; words of affirmation, words used to affirm other people; quality time, giving someone your undivided attention; receiving gifts, love is felt most with a gift; and acts of service, actions speak louder than words2. With knowing this, how can we discover another’s love language and how can we keep others love tank filled?
It has been said by some that no one cares how much you know, until they know how you care. When someone knows that you care about them, they will be ready to reciprocate to you and others. Really, this concept does not recognize age. As we aim at exhibiting the five love languages effectively, we show people around us how to love others and their need to learn to speak others’ love language.
Since we are believers in Christ, imitating God’s love, speaking love through our actions is important and crucial to the growth of the kingdom through the church. Jesus tells 11 of His disciples, a new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another3. Depending on your version of the Bible, from the OT to the NT, God has emphasized and expects us to love. In the King James Version, love is mentioned 310 times, 131 times in the Old Testament and 179 times in the New Testament. In the New American Standard Version, love is mentioned 348 times — 133 times in the Old Testament and 215 times in the New Testament. In the New International Version, it is mentioned 551 times — 319 times in the Old Testament and 232 times in the New Testament. There are 538 instances of the word "love" in the New Revised Standard Version, 317 in the Old Testament and 221 in the New Testament.
When we love, we prove that we are part of God’s family. Per the Apostle John, The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love. Love is not comfortable, it’s sacrificial. Love is as love does. Love cannot be in a person if they see a person in need and they have the means to assist, but yet refuses to help. Love does not manifest itself in polite words; it manifests in deed and in truth. Overall, when we love sacrificially, we can rest before God when we know that we have loved as He has commanded us to love.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. 2005.
2 The 5 Languages of Love. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
3 John 13:34, 35 – NASB
4 1 John 4:8 – NASB
March 2022
Greetings in the Name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and peace be unto you. Let us continue the discussion on The Five Love Languages of Children1 with a focus on strengthening the family.
The fifth of the five love languages of Children is Acts of Service. Overall, love is an action word. Others can feel loved when unsolicited and solicited actions are performed by someone we love. Really, it does not matter how big or small the act might be. For clarity, we must not perform acts based on conditional restraints. Jesus told a host of a gathering, when you give a luncheon or a dinner, do not invite your friends or your brothers or your relatives or rich neighbors, otherwise they may also invite you in return and that will be your repayment. But when you give a reception, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, and you will be blessed, since they do not have the means to repay you; for you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous 2. Guess what?! God, our Heavenly Father, exhibited the ultimate act of service without conditions, which was recorded by the Apostle John. John recorded, for God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him3.
When one’s primary love language is acts of service, he or she is crying for emotional love to keep their love tank full. For those people, actions speak louder than words4. Acts of service are genuine expressions of love which communicates to one’s emotional being. When we perform such acts, they must be age appropriate. Most of the time, people will only remember those things that are done out of love. When performing acts of service, we must ensure that we leave a lasting impression that will move God to smile. However, the primary motivation in its exhibition is not to please people, but to exhibit love. If not, one’s physical needs might be met, but their emotional development will be hampered. The best way to do this is to use acts of service in conjunction with the other languages of love—physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, and gifts. If exhibited with right motives in mind, it can become a model for service and promote responsibility. Being examples of love, we will help others, whether they are believers in Christ or not, to escape their self-centered focus and help others.
No matter how old one is, we may hear I love you all day and every day, but everyone expresses and experiences love differently. We must all remember that loving service is a gift, not a necessity, and is done freely, not under coercion5. When we serve, it must not be done in the spirit of resentment or bitterness. Let us recognize and respond with a loving and positive attitude so that the receiver will be satisfied. Satisfaction leads to contentment. Paul says he has learned to be content in whatever circumstances he finds himself6. Now, this does not mean that we should jump at every request or concern, but be an agent in trying to keep someone else’s love tank full.
Overall, love can and will cure the wickedness in this world. We all need to find comfort in serving others. Jesus said that He came to serve and not to be served7 and it is more blessed to give than to receive8. When we serve in social or missionary service, it must be done with the right motive in mind, body, and soul. We must not have a “what’s in it for me” attitude. If you are thinking about what to do to serve, ponder and act on one of these: perform acts of kindness in a mission, for underprivileged children, a food pantry or soup kitchen, or a nursing home. Remember, acts of service must be age appropriate.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. 2005.
2 Luke 14:12-14
3 John 3:16, 17 - NASB
4 The 5 Languages of Love of Children. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
5 Acts of Service. Chapman, Gary. 2015. p. 94.
6 Philippians 4:11
7 Matthew 20:28; Mark 10:45
8 Acts 20:35
The fifth of the five love languages of Children is Acts of Service. Overall, love is an action word. Others can feel loved when unsolicited and solicited actions are performed by someone we love. Really, it does not matter how big or small the act might be. For clarity, we must not perform acts based on conditional restraints. Jesus told a host of a gathering, when you give a luncheon or a dinner, do not invite your friends or your brothers or your relatives or rich neighbors, otherwise they may also invite you in return and that will be your repayment. But when you give a reception, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, and you will be blessed, since they do not have the means to repay you; for you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous 2. Guess what?! God, our Heavenly Father, exhibited the ultimate act of service without conditions, which was recorded by the Apostle John. John recorded, for God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him3.
When one’s primary love language is acts of service, he or she is crying for emotional love to keep their love tank full. For those people, actions speak louder than words4. Acts of service are genuine expressions of love which communicates to one’s emotional being. When we perform such acts, they must be age appropriate. Most of the time, people will only remember those things that are done out of love. When performing acts of service, we must ensure that we leave a lasting impression that will move God to smile. However, the primary motivation in its exhibition is not to please people, but to exhibit love. If not, one’s physical needs might be met, but their emotional development will be hampered. The best way to do this is to use acts of service in conjunction with the other languages of love—physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, and gifts. If exhibited with right motives in mind, it can become a model for service and promote responsibility. Being examples of love, we will help others, whether they are believers in Christ or not, to escape their self-centered focus and help others.
No matter how old one is, we may hear I love you all day and every day, but everyone expresses and experiences love differently. We must all remember that loving service is a gift, not a necessity, and is done freely, not under coercion5. When we serve, it must not be done in the spirit of resentment or bitterness. Let us recognize and respond with a loving and positive attitude so that the receiver will be satisfied. Satisfaction leads to contentment. Paul says he has learned to be content in whatever circumstances he finds himself6. Now, this does not mean that we should jump at every request or concern, but be an agent in trying to keep someone else’s love tank full.
Overall, love can and will cure the wickedness in this world. We all need to find comfort in serving others. Jesus said that He came to serve and not to be served7 and it is more blessed to give than to receive8. When we serve in social or missionary service, it must be done with the right motive in mind, body, and soul. We must not have a “what’s in it for me” attitude. If you are thinking about what to do to serve, ponder and act on one of these: perform acts of kindness in a mission, for underprivileged children, a food pantry or soup kitchen, or a nursing home. Remember, acts of service must be age appropriate.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. 2005.
2 Luke 14:12-14
3 John 3:16, 17 - NASB
4 The 5 Languages of Love of Children. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
5 Acts of Service. Chapman, Gary. 2015. p. 94.
6 Philippians 4:11
7 Matthew 20:28; Mark 10:45
8 Acts 20:35
February 2022
Greetings in the Name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and peace be unto you. Let us continue the discussion on The Five Love Languages of Children1 with a focus on strengthening the family.
The fourth of the five love languages of Children is Gifts. The giving and receiving of gifts can be a powerful expression of love, at the time they are given and often extending into later years (p. 751). For some people, what makes them feel most loved is to receive a gift2. To express love through giving and receiving gifts is not a new phenomenon. Our English word gift comes from the Greek word charis, which means “grace, or an undeserved gift.” If one receives a gift that is deserved, then it is a payment. A true gift is not payment for services rendered; rather, it is an expression of love for the individual and is freely given by the giver. God gave the entire world a gift an undeserved gift because of His grace and mercy. John 3:16 states, for God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life (John 3:16, NASB). Moreover, for a person to truly speak the love language of gifts, the other 4 love languages-physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, and acts of service-must be exhibited in combination with it.
When giving a gift, we must make every effort to ensure that it is not for a service rendered or for bribery, then it negates the act of genuine love. A true love gift must be from the heart expecting nothing in return. Believe it or not, genuine, heart-felt gifts have nothing to do with the size and/or cost of the gift. It has everything to do with expressing love. Guess what?! Gifts should not be used to compensate or substitute for the other love languages. Gifts can meet the needs of physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, or acts of service.
Moreover, if someone’s love language is gifts. It should be used as a manipulative device. In gift giving, we should think about quality and not quantity. Overall, gifts should be genuine expressions of love. Whenever possible, it is always a good idea to select a gift that someone truly wants and give it as a surprise for no special reason. In addition, not all gifts have to be store-bought. It could be wildflowers, unusual stones, driftwood, or made out of household items.
The gift giver must be very careful to control their emotions if the receiver does not respond as expected. He or she must understand that not everyone will respond to receiving gifts the same way. Those whose love language is receiving gifts will respond differently when they receive a gift. They will make a big deal and be overly dramatic. In addition, it is those that we will have to make a big deal in wrapping the gift and give our undivided attention as they unwrap it. Thinking about this, I can’t help but think about Luke 2:12. When Jesus, the gift of the world, was born, He was wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger. Also, to them, it does not matter if the gift was made, found, or purchased. The only thing that matters is someone thought about them.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. 2005.
2 Receiving Gifts. Chapman, Gary. 2015. The 5 Languages of Love. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
The fourth of the five love languages of Children is Gifts. The giving and receiving of gifts can be a powerful expression of love, at the time they are given and often extending into later years (p. 751). For some people, what makes them feel most loved is to receive a gift2. To express love through giving and receiving gifts is not a new phenomenon. Our English word gift comes from the Greek word charis, which means “grace, or an undeserved gift.” If one receives a gift that is deserved, then it is a payment. A true gift is not payment for services rendered; rather, it is an expression of love for the individual and is freely given by the giver. God gave the entire world a gift an undeserved gift because of His grace and mercy. John 3:16 states, for God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life (John 3:16, NASB). Moreover, for a person to truly speak the love language of gifts, the other 4 love languages-physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, and acts of service-must be exhibited in combination with it.
When giving a gift, we must make every effort to ensure that it is not for a service rendered or for bribery, then it negates the act of genuine love. A true love gift must be from the heart expecting nothing in return. Believe it or not, genuine, heart-felt gifts have nothing to do with the size and/or cost of the gift. It has everything to do with expressing love. Guess what?! Gifts should not be used to compensate or substitute for the other love languages. Gifts can meet the needs of physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, or acts of service.
Moreover, if someone’s love language is gifts. It should be used as a manipulative device. In gift giving, we should think about quality and not quantity. Overall, gifts should be genuine expressions of love. Whenever possible, it is always a good idea to select a gift that someone truly wants and give it as a surprise for no special reason. In addition, not all gifts have to be store-bought. It could be wildflowers, unusual stones, driftwood, or made out of household items.
The gift giver must be very careful to control their emotions if the receiver does not respond as expected. He or she must understand that not everyone will respond to receiving gifts the same way. Those whose love language is receiving gifts will respond differently when they receive a gift. They will make a big deal and be overly dramatic. In addition, it is those that we will have to make a big deal in wrapping the gift and give our undivided attention as they unwrap it. Thinking about this, I can’t help but think about Luke 2:12. When Jesus, the gift of the world, was born, He was wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger. Also, to them, it does not matter if the gift was made, found, or purchased. The only thing that matters is someone thought about them.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. 2005.
2 Receiving Gifts. Chapman, Gary. 2015. The 5 Languages of Love. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
January 2022
Greetings in the Name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and peace be unto you. Let us continue the discussion on The Five Love Languages of Children1 with a focus on strengthening the family.
The third of the five love languages of Children is Quality Time. It is concentrated, undivided, and focused time with someone. In this instance, it is time spent with your child or children. In many of our daily lives, time is already limited. When it comes to children, the little time we have to spend with them, we should make it count and be meaningful.
Time is swift and waits for no man. Once it is gone, we cannot get it back. Solomon in Chapter 3 in the Book of Ecclesiastes writes 1There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven--2 A time to give birth and a time to die; A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted. 3 A time to kill and a time to heal; A time to tear down and a time to build up. 4 A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance. 5 A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing. 6 A time to search and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep and a time to throw away. 7 A time to tear apart and a time to sew together; A time to be silent and a time to speak. 8 A time to love and a time to hate; A time for war and a time for peace1.
Quality time, as a language of love, is easier to give than physical touch and words of affirmation2. To some, this may be hard to hear and do. When it comes to giving quality time, a sacrifice may need to be made. As a child is developing and growing, what will send them over the top is knowing that someone they love and loves them is there with them every step of the way. The most important factor in quality time is not the event itself but that parent and child are doing something together, being together3.
Quality time not only involves concentrated, undivided, and focused activities with someone, it also includes the sharing of thoughts and feelings. This can be time where moral and spiritual issues can be discussed. This can help build a child socially how to process their own thoughts and to communicate in a positive, caring manner. As parents and those that work with children, we must remember what a child needs most is unconditional love. Love to a child should be given consistently, no matter what, regardless of the child’s behavior or any other circumstances.
No matter the type of quality time, it must not happen haphazardly. Planning for it will help one evade chaos and foster meaningful events and activities. Like adults, children feel special if they know that time spent planning and preparing for them. It is crucial, if possible, for both parents to spend quality time with each child. Parents and those that work with children can help each child create healthy and uplifting memories and help assure their balance, stability, and happiness for the rest of their lives4.
1 Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8.
2 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. p. 60. 2005.
3 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. p. 61. 2005.
4 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. p. 69. 2005.
The third of the five love languages of Children is Quality Time. It is concentrated, undivided, and focused time with someone. In this instance, it is time spent with your child or children. In many of our daily lives, time is already limited. When it comes to children, the little time we have to spend with them, we should make it count and be meaningful.
Time is swift and waits for no man. Once it is gone, we cannot get it back. Solomon in Chapter 3 in the Book of Ecclesiastes writes 1There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven--2 A time to give birth and a time to die; A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted. 3 A time to kill and a time to heal; A time to tear down and a time to build up. 4 A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance. 5 A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing. 6 A time to search and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep and a time to throw away. 7 A time to tear apart and a time to sew together; A time to be silent and a time to speak. 8 A time to love and a time to hate; A time for war and a time for peace1.
Quality time, as a language of love, is easier to give than physical touch and words of affirmation2. To some, this may be hard to hear and do. When it comes to giving quality time, a sacrifice may need to be made. As a child is developing and growing, what will send them over the top is knowing that someone they love and loves them is there with them every step of the way. The most important factor in quality time is not the event itself but that parent and child are doing something together, being together3.
Quality time not only involves concentrated, undivided, and focused activities with someone, it also includes the sharing of thoughts and feelings. This can be time where moral and spiritual issues can be discussed. This can help build a child socially how to process their own thoughts and to communicate in a positive, caring manner. As parents and those that work with children, we must remember what a child needs most is unconditional love. Love to a child should be given consistently, no matter what, regardless of the child’s behavior or any other circumstances.
No matter the type of quality time, it must not happen haphazardly. Planning for it will help one evade chaos and foster meaningful events and activities. Like adults, children feel special if they know that time spent planning and preparing for them. It is crucial, if possible, for both parents to spend quality time with each child. Parents and those that work with children can help each child create healthy and uplifting memories and help assure their balance, stability, and happiness for the rest of their lives4.
1 Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8.
2 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. p. 60. 2005.
3 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. p. 61. 2005.
4 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. p. 69. 2005.
December 2021
Greetings in the Name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and peace be unto you. Let us continue the discussion on The Five Love Languages of Children1 with a focus on strengthening the family.
The second of the five love languages of Children is Words of Affirmation. Through verbal communication, the exposition of love is powerful. Words of affection and endearment, words of praise and encouragement, and words that give positive guidance all say, “I care about you.”1 Words are powerful. The reality is the tongue has the power of life and death.2 James even writes to us these words, no one can tame the tongue; it is a restless evil and full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the likeness of God; from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be this way. Does a fountain send out from the same opening both fresh and bitter water? 3
Showing love through Words of Affirmation, we must ensure that our nonverbal and verbal are allies. Not only adults, but children hang on to every word from someone who they feel that genuinely loves them. A parent’s or another adult’s comment towards a child, could be a constant part of their perception. When speaking to one another, we need to be mindful of our tone of voice. Really, this truth is rich no matter if we are speaking to children or adults.
If you know someone whose primary love language is Words of Affirmations, it is essential for people to apologize for negative, critical, or harsh remarks. While words can’t be erased by an apology, their effect can be minimized.4 Honestly, this concept should be valued not matter if one’s language is physical touch, quality time, gifts, or acts of service. Yes, negativity can become a pattern where one is unaware. Positive communication is so important to every successful adult-child relationship, it is worth the effort to break old patterns and establish new ones.5
All and all, Words of Affirmation have the most impact when they are focused a specific effort or task. When words affirm what one does and not condemns, it will encourage another to take risks. We need to always keep in mind that every child and adult is different. It is a must we do what we can to exhibit what will speaks to one’s primary love language. This may even mean that we may have to leave our comfort zone to ensure we are filling another’s love tank, especially our children.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. p. 45. 2005.
2 Proverbs 18:21.
3 James 3: 8-11, NASB.
4 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. p. 55. 2005.
5 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. p. 55. 2005.
The second of the five love languages of Children is Words of Affirmation. Through verbal communication, the exposition of love is powerful. Words of affection and endearment, words of praise and encouragement, and words that give positive guidance all say, “I care about you.”1 Words are powerful. The reality is the tongue has the power of life and death.2 James even writes to us these words, no one can tame the tongue; it is a restless evil and full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the likeness of God; from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be this way. Does a fountain send out from the same opening both fresh and bitter water? 3
Showing love through Words of Affirmation, we must ensure that our nonverbal and verbal are allies. Not only adults, but children hang on to every word from someone who they feel that genuinely loves them. A parent’s or another adult’s comment towards a child, could be a constant part of their perception. When speaking to one another, we need to be mindful of our tone of voice. Really, this truth is rich no matter if we are speaking to children or adults.
If you know someone whose primary love language is Words of Affirmations, it is essential for people to apologize for negative, critical, or harsh remarks. While words can’t be erased by an apology, their effect can be minimized.4 Honestly, this concept should be valued not matter if one’s language is physical touch, quality time, gifts, or acts of service. Yes, negativity can become a pattern where one is unaware. Positive communication is so important to every successful adult-child relationship, it is worth the effort to break old patterns and establish new ones.5
All and all, Words of Affirmation have the most impact when they are focused a specific effort or task. When words affirm what one does and not condemns, it will encourage another to take risks. We need to always keep in mind that every child and adult is different. It is a must we do what we can to exhibit what will speaks to one’s primary love language. This may even mean that we may have to leave our comfort zone to ensure we are filling another’s love tank, especially our children.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. p. 45. 2005.
2 Proverbs 18:21.
3 James 3: 8-11, NASB.
4 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. p. 55. 2005.
5 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. p. 55. 2005.
November 2021
Greetings in the Name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and peace be unto you. Let us continue to discuss the thought The Five Love Languages of Children1 with a focus on strengthening the family.
The first of the five love languages of Children is Physical Touch. Showing through physical touch is the most basic of the 5 and it does not take much effort. Some ideas for physical touch are daily hugs and kisses before and after school, and when parents tuck their children in bed at night for younger children; snuggle on the couch when watching television; high-five when your child does something positive; tickles; allow young children to sit on your lap when reading stories; for a sick or hurt child, spend extra time holding them; or hold hands during family prayer1.
Physical touch in recent years has gain a bad connotation due to the action of the inappropriate actions of a few adults. In addition, the sound of it makes some people uncomfortable, especially those that work around children. Because of it, parents are becoming more and more uncomfortable leaving the children with other adults unattended. Fathers are even moving away tossing their sons in the air and showing affection to their daughters in public. Let’s not forget about the mothers. They are limiting their children from sitting on their lap and showing affection to their sons in public. In addition, many parents have moved away from chastising their children both in the home and public.
Studies indicate that many parents touch their children only when it is necessary: when they are dressing and undressing them; putting them in the car; or carrying them to bed2. Parents should not allow the dysfunctional actions of few make them act unloving to their children. Affection and chastisement are signs of love. Some of us might not feel comfortable doing a language or showing love in a special way, but if that is our children’s primary love language, we must gradually grow in to it.
Many research studies have come to the same conclusion: Babies who are held, hugged, and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact. Believe it or not, physical touch is one of love’s strongest and loudest voice. Jesus even had a desire to touch children. John Mark wrote that Jesus said, “Permit the children to come to Me; do not hinder them; for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child will not enter it at all.” And He took them in His arms and began blessing them, laying His hands on them3.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. pp. 41, 42. 2005.
2 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children, p. 29. 2005.
3 Mark 10: 13-16, NASB
The first of the five love languages of Children is Physical Touch. Showing through physical touch is the most basic of the 5 and it does not take much effort. Some ideas for physical touch are daily hugs and kisses before and after school, and when parents tuck their children in bed at night for younger children; snuggle on the couch when watching television; high-five when your child does something positive; tickles; allow young children to sit on your lap when reading stories; for a sick or hurt child, spend extra time holding them; or hold hands during family prayer1.
Physical touch in recent years has gain a bad connotation due to the action of the inappropriate actions of a few adults. In addition, the sound of it makes some people uncomfortable, especially those that work around children. Because of it, parents are becoming more and more uncomfortable leaving the children with other adults unattended. Fathers are even moving away tossing their sons in the air and showing affection to their daughters in public. Let’s not forget about the mothers. They are limiting their children from sitting on their lap and showing affection to their sons in public. In addition, many parents have moved away from chastising their children both in the home and public.
Studies indicate that many parents touch their children only when it is necessary: when they are dressing and undressing them; putting them in the car; or carrying them to bed2. Parents should not allow the dysfunctional actions of few make them act unloving to their children. Affection and chastisement are signs of love. Some of us might not feel comfortable doing a language or showing love in a special way, but if that is our children’s primary love language, we must gradually grow in to it.
Many research studies have come to the same conclusion: Babies who are held, hugged, and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact. Believe it or not, physical touch is one of love’s strongest and loudest voice. Jesus even had a desire to touch children. John Mark wrote that Jesus said, “Permit the children to come to Me; do not hinder them; for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child will not enter it at all.” And He took them in His arms and began blessing them, laying His hands on them3.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. pp. 41, 42. 2005.
2 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children, p. 29. 2005.
3 Mark 10: 13-16, NASB
October 2021
Greetings in the Name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and peace be unto you. Let us continue to discuss the thought The Five Love Languages of Children1 with a focus on strengthening the family.
The Bible, from the Old to the New Testament, speaks on the concept of love, because God is love2. Love can be felt and exemplified in all sorts of forms, which can ultimately fall into two categories, verbal and nonverbal. Most of all, the best way people feel love is if another shows it through their actions. In action, love is, what love does.
Stated in the previous month’s issue of this newsletter, all people need love, but children understand it differently than adults. I truly feel that if parents want to really deeply love their children they must come to identify each one of their children’s primary love language and exemplify it. Love is not what one feels comfortable in doing, because showing it just might pull you from your land of comfort.
All people want and need love to live a healthy life. Yes, I know the basics needs of man are water, food, and shelter, but if this is not done in love, it’s pointless. Whether adults want to admit it or not, the actions of parents have a lot to do with their child’s behavior. Because of that, a child’s actions could be an outcry for love and if not satisfied, they could look for fulfillment in all the wrong ways and places and from the wrong people.
Love is not conditional. The authors from our book of study says, “We need to fill our children’s emotional tanks with unconditional love. Unconditional love is a full love that accepts and affirms a child for who he is and not for what he does. Sadly, parents often display a love that is conditional; it depends on something other than their children just being. Conditional love is based on performance and is often associated with training techniques that offer gifts, rewards, and privileges to children who behave or perform in desired ways.3” We cannot train kids like we train animals. Honestly, this may be the most difficult thing for some to read but its true: children can have in mind that their parents love them, but they may not feel loved.
Really, loving children differently is not a new phenomenon. Seasoned parents will tell you that they deeply love all their 4, 8, or 15 kids, but each child is not and cannot be loved the same.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. 2005.
2 1 John 4:8
3 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children, p. 17. 2005.
The Bible, from the Old to the New Testament, speaks on the concept of love, because God is love2. Love can be felt and exemplified in all sorts of forms, which can ultimately fall into two categories, verbal and nonverbal. Most of all, the best way people feel love is if another shows it through their actions. In action, love is, what love does.
Stated in the previous month’s issue of this newsletter, all people need love, but children understand it differently than adults. I truly feel that if parents want to really deeply love their children they must come to identify each one of their children’s primary love language and exemplify it. Love is not what one feels comfortable in doing, because showing it just might pull you from your land of comfort.
All people want and need love to live a healthy life. Yes, I know the basics needs of man are water, food, and shelter, but if this is not done in love, it’s pointless. Whether adults want to admit it or not, the actions of parents have a lot to do with their child’s behavior. Because of that, a child’s actions could be an outcry for love and if not satisfied, they could look for fulfillment in all the wrong ways and places and from the wrong people.
Love is not conditional. The authors from our book of study says, “We need to fill our children’s emotional tanks with unconditional love. Unconditional love is a full love that accepts and affirms a child for who he is and not for what he does. Sadly, parents often display a love that is conditional; it depends on something other than their children just being. Conditional love is based on performance and is often associated with training techniques that offer gifts, rewards, and privileges to children who behave or perform in desired ways.3” We cannot train kids like we train animals. Honestly, this may be the most difficult thing for some to read but its true: children can have in mind that their parents love them, but they may not feel loved.
Really, loving children differently is not a new phenomenon. Seasoned parents will tell you that they deeply love all their 4, 8, or 15 kids, but each child is not and cannot be loved the same.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. 2005.
2 1 John 4:8
3 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children, p. 17. 2005.
September 2021
Greetings in the Name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and peace be unto you. For the next several months, let us ponder on the thought The Five Love Languages of Children1 with a focus on strengthening the family.
Many of us have I love you for many reasons, which for some makes a huge difference, while others see it as meaningless if actions are not applied. Guess what?! Not only adults, but children can hear I love you, but not feel love. Love is a universal language. For us to fill the love tank of each person, we must be able to act upon each person’s love language no matter the age.
In Paul’s Hymn to Love,2 the prescription for solving emotional sickness in the church body, he says that love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.3 Overall, Paul’s aim is to define real love. Love is the key ingredient that everyone needs to feel and exhibit. Jesus told the apostles, a new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.4 The Apostle John writes, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth5 and beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.6
Plainly speaking about the development and transformation of children to giving, loving adults, love is the key. By love, speaking a child’s love language, children are more likely to consider and accept encouragement, correction, and chastisement, without resistance, when they feel one’s love as genuine and consistent.
As stated earlier, we will take the next several months to analyze, with an aim of making love a verb, love as physical touch; words of affirmation; quality time; gifts; and acts of service.
Know that just like all adults are not the same, all children are not the same, even if they are from the same family.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. 2005.
2 1 Corinthians 13: 1-13
3 1 Corinthians 13: 5-8a. New American Standard Bible (NASB) Version.
4 John 13: 34, 35. New American Standard Bible (NASB) Version.
5 1 John 3:18. New American Standard Bible (NASB) Version.
6 1 John 4: 7, 8. New American Standard Bible (NASB) Version.
Many of us have I love you for many reasons, which for some makes a huge difference, while others see it as meaningless if actions are not applied. Guess what?! Not only adults, but children can hear I love you, but not feel love. Love is a universal language. For us to fill the love tank of each person, we must be able to act upon each person’s love language no matter the age.
In Paul’s Hymn to Love,2 the prescription for solving emotional sickness in the church body, he says that love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.3 Overall, Paul’s aim is to define real love. Love is the key ingredient that everyone needs to feel and exhibit. Jesus told the apostles, a new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.4 The Apostle John writes, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth5 and beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.6
Plainly speaking about the development and transformation of children to giving, loving adults, love is the key. By love, speaking a child’s love language, children are more likely to consider and accept encouragement, correction, and chastisement, without resistance, when they feel one’s love as genuine and consistent.
As stated earlier, we will take the next several months to analyze, with an aim of making love a verb, love as physical touch; words of affirmation; quality time; gifts; and acts of service.
Know that just like all adults are not the same, all children are not the same, even if they are from the same family.
1 Chapman, Gary and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. 2005.
2 1 Corinthians 13: 1-13
3 1 Corinthians 13: 5-8a. New American Standard Bible (NASB) Version.
4 John 13: 34, 35. New American Standard Bible (NASB) Version.
5 1 John 3:18. New American Standard Bible (NASB) Version.
6 1 John 4: 7, 8. New American Standard Bible (NASB) Version.
August 2021
Greetings
in the Name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and peace be unto you. For the month of July, I would like for us to
ponder on the thought Agents of Change with the scriptural text
from Mark 6: 7, 12- He summoned the twelve and began to send them out in pairs,
and gave them authority over the unclean spirits; They went out and preached
that men should repent (cf.
Luke 10: 1, 8).
Believe it or not, God is counting on those that have come to embrace the plan of salvation and born again believers to lead, guide, and bring clarity to His divine Word. By way of Paul, through the Book of Timothy, all Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work (2 Timothy 3: 16, 17). The mentioned verse is tailored to teach us that the Word of God has the power to change an individual. Before we can fulfill the duty of being an active Agent of Change, we must allow the word to perform a good work in us.
Every converted believer has been commissioned with a mission to convert others. Jesus said in Matthew 28: 19, 20a: Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I commanded you.
Plainly speaking, Agents of Change are those people who act as catalysts for change no matter what the obstacles may seem or stumbling blocks they may come in their way. As agents, we should not concern ourselves with the ever-changing trends and facets of our surroundings.
Being spiritual Agents of Change, we must embody at least the fruits of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control (Galatians 5: 22, 23a). You may ask why this is important. This business of change is important because change in calling people back to God will not happen overnight and will take every bit of the fruits of Spirit and trust in God for us to maintain our fire to fulfill our purpose. In many ways, we must be like John the Baptist with a voice calling, “Clear the way for the LORD in the wilderness; make smooth in the desert a highway for our God” (John 1:23; cf. Isaiah 40:3).
In addition, we must understand that saving souls is not a solo project. If we go at this in a team, being a good team player, we could strengthen and encourage each other, especially when we face rejection trying to fulfill our purpose. Yes, our strength ultimately comes from God, but He meets many of our needs through our teamwork with others.
Listen, all we have to do go with an aim to do our Lord’s business. Jesus made it clear that he listeners were responsible for what they did with the gospel. The disciples were not to blame if the message was rejected, as long as they had faithfully and carefully presented it. We are not responsible when others reject Christ’s message of salvation, but we do have the responsibility to share the gospel clearly and faithfully.
Overall, our living and mission is to show the coming of God’s kingdom (cf. Mark 1:15). Let us be about our Father’s business as we make our journey to Heaven. It is time for believers to become active in their purpose.
Believe it or not, God is counting on those that have come to embrace the plan of salvation and born again believers to lead, guide, and bring clarity to His divine Word. By way of Paul, through the Book of Timothy, all Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work (2 Timothy 3: 16, 17). The mentioned verse is tailored to teach us that the Word of God has the power to change an individual. Before we can fulfill the duty of being an active Agent of Change, we must allow the word to perform a good work in us.
Every converted believer has been commissioned with a mission to convert others. Jesus said in Matthew 28: 19, 20a: Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I commanded you.
Plainly speaking, Agents of Change are those people who act as catalysts for change no matter what the obstacles may seem or stumbling blocks they may come in their way. As agents, we should not concern ourselves with the ever-changing trends and facets of our surroundings.
Being spiritual Agents of Change, we must embody at least the fruits of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control (Galatians 5: 22, 23a). You may ask why this is important. This business of change is important because change in calling people back to God will not happen overnight and will take every bit of the fruits of Spirit and trust in God for us to maintain our fire to fulfill our purpose. In many ways, we must be like John the Baptist with a voice calling, “Clear the way for the LORD in the wilderness; make smooth in the desert a highway for our God” (John 1:23; cf. Isaiah 40:3).
In addition, we must understand that saving souls is not a solo project. If we go at this in a team, being a good team player, we could strengthen and encourage each other, especially when we face rejection trying to fulfill our purpose. Yes, our strength ultimately comes from God, but He meets many of our needs through our teamwork with others.
Listen, all we have to do go with an aim to do our Lord’s business. Jesus made it clear that he listeners were responsible for what they did with the gospel. The disciples were not to blame if the message was rejected, as long as they had faithfully and carefully presented it. We are not responsible when others reject Christ’s message of salvation, but we do have the responsibility to share the gospel clearly and faithfully.
Overall, our living and mission is to show the coming of God’s kingdom (cf. Mark 1:15). Let us be about our Father’s business as we make our journey to Heaven. It is time for believers to become active in their purpose.
July 2021
Greetings
in the Name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and peace be unto you. For the month of June, I would like for us to
ponder on the thought the Power of Prayer.
Prayer, communication to and an intimate fellowship with God (1 Kings 8:28; Matthew 21:22). It calls for faith and a right relationship with God (Psalms 66:18; James 5:16). Through prayer, one may find themselves in the act of praising, thanking, confessing, asking, interceding, submitting, forgiving, confiding, and receiving. Overall, prayer has power. Some people even go by the thought, much prayer, much power; little prayer, little power. Prayer has the power to get God’s attention to solicit the intervention of His strength and authority. It is also said that prayer is the key, and faith unlocks the door. Notice, without prayer, there is no initial action or what we call God working it out. Through the Power of Prayer, we can take peace and rest in knowing that if we pray about it, we do not have to worry about it. Once we put it in the Hands of the Lord, He is working on it.
Prayer is not an action that should only be done by a minister or deacon of a religious organization or church. It is an act that should be a tool that is active in every Christian’s life. Prayer should be that tool that is used no matter the condition or circumstance. Whether we are up or down; succeeding or failing; above or beneath; healthy or sick; rich or poor, we should be found in prayer. Paul says to us that we should rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). Jesus also says ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives; and he who seeks, finds; and to him who knocks, it will be opened (Luke 11:9, 10).
To guide us in prayer, Jesus gave us “The Lord’s Prayer,” Our Father who is in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come. Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen (Matthew 6:9-13-NASB).
While making prayer prominent in our life, we must not forget to prayer for our family, friends, and foes (enemies). Now, many of us would find it easy to pray for family and friends, but find it difficult to pray for our foes. It is the Spirit of God that can and will change not only every situation and ailment of life, but every individual. Not a thing or person can resist the power of change from God.
We should not have what we deem to be tragedies in life to have us to begin to commune with the Father. God is waiting to hear from us. It is never too late in any situation to pray. He is never too busy where He will not have a listening ear. If we desire for a situation to change or God’s favor to be involved in our life, we need to pray to see and experience the outcome of the Power of Prayer. We must not grow weary or faint in praying, the power thereof will come when we most need it.
Prayer, communication to and an intimate fellowship with God (1 Kings 8:28; Matthew 21:22). It calls for faith and a right relationship with God (Psalms 66:18; James 5:16). Through prayer, one may find themselves in the act of praising, thanking, confessing, asking, interceding, submitting, forgiving, confiding, and receiving. Overall, prayer has power. Some people even go by the thought, much prayer, much power; little prayer, little power. Prayer has the power to get God’s attention to solicit the intervention of His strength and authority. It is also said that prayer is the key, and faith unlocks the door. Notice, without prayer, there is no initial action or what we call God working it out. Through the Power of Prayer, we can take peace and rest in knowing that if we pray about it, we do not have to worry about it. Once we put it in the Hands of the Lord, He is working on it.
Prayer is not an action that should only be done by a minister or deacon of a religious organization or church. It is an act that should be a tool that is active in every Christian’s life. Prayer should be that tool that is used no matter the condition or circumstance. Whether we are up or down; succeeding or failing; above or beneath; healthy or sick; rich or poor, we should be found in prayer. Paul says to us that we should rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). Jesus also says ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives; and he who seeks, finds; and to him who knocks, it will be opened (Luke 11:9, 10).
To guide us in prayer, Jesus gave us “The Lord’s Prayer,” Our Father who is in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come. Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen (Matthew 6:9-13-NASB).
While making prayer prominent in our life, we must not forget to prayer for our family, friends, and foes (enemies). Now, many of us would find it easy to pray for family and friends, but find it difficult to pray for our foes. It is the Spirit of God that can and will change not only every situation and ailment of life, but every individual. Not a thing or person can resist the power of change from God.
We should not have what we deem to be tragedies in life to have us to begin to commune with the Father. God is waiting to hear from us. It is never too late in any situation to pray. He is never too busy where He will not have a listening ear. If we desire for a situation to change or God’s favor to be involved in our life, we need to pray to see and experience the outcome of the Power of Prayer. We must not grow weary or faint in praying, the power thereof will come when we most need it.
June 2021
Greetings in the Name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and peace be
unto you. Truly being on the other side
of the fence from being truly an absorber to an imparter, I have come to
discover, not only are youth and young adults lacking in understanding the Word
of God, but some adults are as well. In
a spiritual sense, this is a tragedy because this will not lead one to
experience a spiritual quickening/awakening.
Believe it or not, we are responsible for our own spiritual life and
growth. As a Christian, understanding
the love of Jesus; the grace of God; and the communion with the Holy Spirit
should be key priorities in our spiritual development. As a scriptural reference, 2 Timothy 2:15,
Paul says to Timothy, study
to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed,
rightly dividing the word of truth. Now, there are extreme differences between reading and
studying the Word of God.
If one wishes to understand God and His Will, then the main tool that should be used is the Holy Bible. I know many could get into a discussion and debate over which version is the most useful and/or correct. As a thought, each person should use a version that is best for them or one should seek to purchase a parallel bible with 2 or more versions. Even in owning a bible, Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth, let us look beyond the notion of simply reading it to studying it. What is the difference?
The Bible is a living Book and it cuts deep to transform us (Hebrews 4:12). Some have no interest in studying it because they think that I is a daunting task. Reading the Bible only puts one on the level of word recognition and pronunciation. But when one studies, the 3 acts of Bible Study occur—observation, interpretation, and application. Studying the Bible should be as important to Christians as food is a need for natural thriving. When we come to know the Word of God, then it will be used as nourishment for the spirit as a profitable tool ... for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work (2 Timothy 3:16, 17). Proper studying will always involve moderate to extensive research by making references to commentaries and other supportive material. Effective and consistent studying is not only meant for ministers, pastors, or teachers, but for those seeking to be good disciples. The only way the Word can do its job by being a lamp and a light (Psalm 119:105), we must move from fluently reading to properly studying.
If you really desire to make the transition to studying, you can by 1. Praying before study time; 2. Stay encouraged and diligent; 3. Take notes; and 4. Live what you study. If we do not make the transition from simply reading to studying, we could possibly miss the meaning and the significance of scripture.
Overall, Bible Study is an essential part to Christian living. Without it, one will ultimately fail at trying to do the Will of God. Moreover, every Christian is called to be a disciple who fulfills the Great Commission, Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I commanded you (Matthew 28:19, 20). Bible Study ultimately leads us to 1. gain approval from God; 2. not be ashamed of serving and working for God; and 3. able to rightly interpret and apply the truth.
If one wishes to understand God and His Will, then the main tool that should be used is the Holy Bible. I know many could get into a discussion and debate over which version is the most useful and/or correct. As a thought, each person should use a version that is best for them or one should seek to purchase a parallel bible with 2 or more versions. Even in owning a bible, Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth, let us look beyond the notion of simply reading it to studying it. What is the difference?
The Bible is a living Book and it cuts deep to transform us (Hebrews 4:12). Some have no interest in studying it because they think that I is a daunting task. Reading the Bible only puts one on the level of word recognition and pronunciation. But when one studies, the 3 acts of Bible Study occur—observation, interpretation, and application. Studying the Bible should be as important to Christians as food is a need for natural thriving. When we come to know the Word of God, then it will be used as nourishment for the spirit as a profitable tool ... for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work (2 Timothy 3:16, 17). Proper studying will always involve moderate to extensive research by making references to commentaries and other supportive material. Effective and consistent studying is not only meant for ministers, pastors, or teachers, but for those seeking to be good disciples. The only way the Word can do its job by being a lamp and a light (Psalm 119:105), we must move from fluently reading to properly studying.
If you really desire to make the transition to studying, you can by 1. Praying before study time; 2. Stay encouraged and diligent; 3. Take notes; and 4. Live what you study. If we do not make the transition from simply reading to studying, we could possibly miss the meaning and the significance of scripture.
Overall, Bible Study is an essential part to Christian living. Without it, one will ultimately fail at trying to do the Will of God. Moreover, every Christian is called to be a disciple who fulfills the Great Commission, Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I commanded you (Matthew 28:19, 20). Bible Study ultimately leads us to 1. gain approval from God; 2. not be ashamed of serving and working for God; and 3. able to rightly interpret and apply the truth.